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There’s nothing wrong with a little Independence

In today’s society, it seems that we revert back to older days when it comes to relationships. Back then, girls were typically “housewives” and stayed at home to clean and cook for their significant other. Women didn’t have many rights way back then so it was pretty understandable. However, we have come a long way. Why does it seem that women want to still stay at home and live off of their boyfriends, husbands, other? Now I’m not talking about being a stay-at-home mom because that is what the both of you decided was better. I’m talking about in a regular relationship or marriage. It seems to me that women would rather live off of someone else’s money and be dependent off of them. With as many opportunities as there are available, why aren’t more women taking advantage of them? It is OKAY to be completely INDEPENDENT. Sure it has it’s rough edges, but there are way more positives than negatives.

Being independent allows you to figure out the “real world”. It’s a scary place out there and no one wants to face it alone. Albeit, you might just find yourself in that situation. It is scary, it is lonely sometimes, but the self-fulfilling reward that you receive in the end is completely worth it. You can sit at your home and just think “I made it. I didn’t have anyone help me and I did it completely on my own.” There is no better feeling than accomplishment, especially when it comes from within.

You know your self worth. I have never seen a c0mpletely independent woman with someone who treated her less than what she deserved. Being able to take care of yourself with no help intimidates boys. Realize that I said boys; men are usually okay with an independent woman. A boy gets intimidated because they can’t accept that they have a lady who doesn’t NEED him. As an independent woman, you don’t fully rely on someone. You know how to take care of yourself, you know what you deserve, and you aren’t going to settle for anything less. Now, being this independent often leads to a low amount of dating partners. It is a little rough, but it will be okay. You will find a MAN who is willing to accept that you don’t have to have him but you want him. You will achieve the ideal dating situation: partners instead of codependents.

You’re in control of your future. You don’t have to worry about reporting to someone or seeing if someone else is okay with your decisions. You are your own person. You make the rules that you follow and you don’t have to worry about anyone else holding you down. Sometimes it is easy to lose sight of this when you’re in a group of people all the time. You are in control of your own destiny.

You become more helpful to others. Not everyone knows how to be independent. By doing it yourself, you have the ability to help other people. You’ll have so much more knowledge because of your experiences, and you’ll be able to share that with people who do not.

You are more confident and have less fear. Being independent allows you to enhance your confidence in not only yourself, but your abilities. You won’t be afraid to do something that you might not have been able to do prior. You’ll go and eat by yourself, attend events by yourself, and so much more because you know that you can do it. You will have more insight on different things which will make you more valuable.

Some people look down on independent woman, ignore them. They’re probably just jealous that they aren’t as independent as you. It is a great journey that not everyone gets to experience. Take advantage of it and live your life to the fullest! You’re strong, you’re beautiful, and you’re independent!

 

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